Hey there welcome to the first Podcast and Video Blog on CPTSD and Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse.
In it this podcast I will be answering questions from the forum here.
These were the questions that were answered.
“1) Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with someone with CPTSD, if they are following up with therapy and the necessary steps to recover?
2) Can being in a relationship with someone with CPTSD bring out codependent/fawning coping mechanisms, and is that just an unhealthy dynamic?
3) What is the best way to be supportive to someone with CPTSD?
4) Is it even possible to separate regular “relationship” issues vs CPTSD related issues, and honestly does the distinction even matter if it is causing unhappiness…?”
“I’m going through a divorce with a covert/vulnerable narcissistic man. He went from deeply in love to done and discarded very quickly. I’m having a very hard time getting past this even though the marriage lasted only 6 months and he lived with me only 42 days across those 6 months. He’s already onto a new “supply”. I have learnt from your videos that I have a people pleasing syndrome and I sold myself too short in this marriage.
1) I want to regain my self-worth. Where do I begin?
2) How can I be self-assertive and avoid attracting narcissistic men? I have very low self-esteem.
3) When will the pain stop…I know there’s no easy way out. Minute by minute seems so difficult right no”
“Is there research that’s been done or links between children who have grow up in extreme religions/cults (I.e moronism) developing NPD? Can a narcissist (by his own nature) believe in God?”
“After watching the videos in your class, I’m wondering if I have to be very careful with the therapist I choose to help recover from CPTSD.
What are some questions I should be asking when I call them? So far I am going to ask if they’ve successfully treated someone with CPTSD in the past.
The reason I ask, is that my previous therapist continued to treat me, but avoided talking about what caused my CPTSD. I don’t think she was trained for it so she didn’t want to unearth what I have buried. Still, her ego was too big to refer me to someone who could actually help.”
“1)Can a BPD woman also be a covert Narc?I’m a bit confused on this one.I ask this as when we watched your vids,she actually said to me ‘I hope you don’t think I am a Narc?’!
2)I made the mistake of bringing up a few times after the r’s ended that I felt she suffered this.Even though she rang me one night telling me ‘I’m empty inside’ ‘I’m weird’ ‘I don’t know who I am’ etc.She has now backtracked,denied this and has basically done a 180 and i’m now a Narc in her mind.She and I are NC now two month.I am giving up of ever bringing this up again if we ever get on speaking terms as she has to know this is why she feels the way she has all her life.Do you think it’s in her and my best interest to just drop it as she is an adult and has to make her own choices regardless of how much I care?
3)Grieving in reverse.How much do you know about this or is there much weight to it?Is it just a repression of emotions,then as time goes on the dam just overflows and the pain hits them when we have worked through our grief?
4)I read that they seem to jump into new r’s very quickly.Five months on and she hasn’t.This goes against her past as she never seemed to be without a partner for very long.Do some Bpd woman fill that void with friends or other activities.Is this against the ‘norm’?”
Copyright Richard Grannon 2016